At some moments in my life, in my memories, an episode from the film “We'll Live Until Monday” comes to mind.
This film tells about several days of a simple Soviet school, which has its own problems: relationships between students and teachers, lack of understanding between different generations, and also the search for oneself.
In this episode, which I often remember, there is a literature lesson. The ninth grade student writes an essay on the topic: “My idea of happiness.”
Everyone writes, carefully thinking about what happiness is?
The bell rings. The lesson is over. Some have written a lot, others not so much. Everyone has their own understanding of happiness.
And on the last desk sits a boy who is hopelessly in love with his classmate. She doesn't pay him any attention at all. In front of him is a notebook with an essay and there is one single phrase written there: “”.
At some moments, I especially feel all the wisdom and depth of this phrase...
Understanding is the basis of relationships
Our whole life consists of relationships with close and not so close people, and understanding, from my point of view, is the foundation, the cornerstone on which everything rests.
During this time, a lot of new and valuable knowledge, discoveries and revelations came into my life. And one of them is the experience of living and experiencing in a male body, in a male incarnation.
I smoothly dive into my memories, and a beautiful picture opens up before me: endless fields, vineyards, olive groves. A man is riding along the road on a white horse.
He spurs his horse and it carries him at full speed. A headwind is in your face, your cloak flutters in the wind. He is beautifully built and handsome: proud posture, burning gaze.
This is the ruler of the state and this is his land. He surveys the expanses of his domain. There are people working everywhere. This ruler is me.
There is joy and satisfaction in the soul that everything is bearing fruit, there will be a good harvest, the subjects are happy and, most importantly, there is peace now! And my wife and little son are waiting for me at home.
The next picture is me in the palace. I quickly enter the hall and see my wife. She smiles affectionately and hands me our son. I take him in my arms. He's still just a baby.
I feel his warmth, the smell of milk, and an aching feeling of happiness and pride spreads in my chest - this is my heir. I look at my wife, she feels my gaze, raises her eyes and our gazes meet.
And it “covers” me... “covers” with such a wave of feelings and emotions that I cannot utter a word.
I have my son in my arms, my wife in front of me, and there is a lump in my throat from feelings surging from nowhere.
This is a whole cocktail of tenderness and gratitude to this woman, for the fact that she gave birth to my son, and the joy that she is next to me, and the pride that such a woman has become my wife.
And also a great desire to protect and defend her, to “throw this whole world at her feet” for the fact that she is simply in my life.
Tears come to my eyes, they are about to burst out, but I can’t and shouldn’t show them... I am a man! I am a warrior!
What does a man need to be happy?
At this time, my guide smoothly transfers me to another memory and the next episode is in front of me.
I am teaching my grown son. We have a fencing lesson. He doesn't get it right, and I get angry. I really want him to be the best! He's my heir!
Next picture. I pass on my knowledge of martial arts to him. I tell him about the war, but at the same time I tell him that the most important thing is peace! And you can only fight as a last resort. War is destruction, death and misfortune.
And by the way he listens and perceives my words, I understand that I can calmly transfer responsibility for my subjects and my state to him. And here it is! Again this indescribable feeling: this is my son, my blood, my hope and support!
It was a difficult but wonderful life for a worthy man. A reliable ruler of the state, a brave and courageous warrior, a strict but loving father. A man who has carried through his entire life loyalty, respect and love for his woman.
Men and women are two different planets
During this immersion and living the moments of that life of mine in a male body, new realizations came to me. It was an amazing experience that opened up my understanding of such a famous phrase: “We are different.”
We are men and women.
Yes, I heard about it, read about it, and, as it seemed to me, I understood it. But….
I didn't realize HOW different. Emotions, feelings, experiences are called the same words and sound the same: joy, pride, gratitude, responsibility, but when all these feelings and emotions are experienced in a male body, they have a completely different color and shade.
They sound the same, but feel different.
And at that moment when I looked at my wife, and at that moment when I held my son in my arms, then I taught him, passed on my knowledge and experience.
During all these moments, I experienced very strong and deep feelings, but not at all in the same way as I experience feelings with the same name, but in a female body.
Everything is different. It is amazing! I was amazed that this courageous, stern warrior, protector, ruler and patron, could be so gentle, caring and acutely worried.
Moreover, outwardly, this did not manifest itself in any way, all emotions were seething inside. And only a loving, sincere and understanding woman could feel what was happening to such a formidable ruler.
Yes, probably, only with SUCH a woman could he be SUCH a man. Responsible for his state, for his subjects, his family, a noble and brave warrior and at the same time a deeply feeling and understanding spouse and father.
For me all this was a great revelation! No, of course, it’s not that men can feel, but that they can feel exactly THIS way and not show it in any way.
After that, I began to look at men with different eyes. Others, from the point of view of this awareness of mine. I saw how often we do not understand what is behind this or that reaction, behind this or that male action.
How to maintain harmony in a relationship
I think that every person strives for harmonious relationships. And if we cannot understand the difference between male and female natures, we are unlikely to be able to achieve harmony.
Based on the experience of my personal life, observing the life experiences of my friends and acquaintances, I came to understand that the basis of all quarrels and conflicts is that we want, and sometimes demand, that the other person with whom we interact should be like this same as me. At the same time, often without understanding the differences at all.
Men and women are not just different planets! These are different worlds or even galaxies! And we often invade this world with “our own rules,” not knowing and not wanting to understand by what laws it lives. We bring our own rules to this world and want it to suddenly become like ours...
And if it never becomes the same (and this cannot happen for objective reasons), then it ceases to coincide with our picture of the world and we suffer and cause suffering to other people.
Very often, we do not allow ourselves to understand and accept the fact that this person is a whole world, he is different, not like ours, but this is no worse. He's just DIFFERENT!
We are so different, but still we are together. And this is not just like that. We need each other and we are together, according to a brilliant and great plan.
And this definition of that ninth-grader: “Happiness is when you are understood!” continues to remain relevant.
We need this so much….to be understood by our parents, children, loved ones, bosses, subordinates, employees…. We need this so much!
But they need it no less. Are we always ready to try to understand another person when entering into a relationship with him or when already in one?
After all, relationships are always at least two sides. Are we willing to sincerely move towards understanding another person? Or does this “sacred” mantra sit inside us: “I, ME, MINE”??? Something to think about...
This, of course, is a big and serious topic, but I am glad that now I have the opportunity to explore it and discover it more fully and from different sides, with the help of such a wonderful tool as reincarnation.
I understand that I can get acquainted with the laws and rules of another world in order not to enter into conflict with it, but to learn to interact harmoniously.
WHAT MEN NEED
Contrary to popular belief, they need more than just sex from us. Or rather, if a certain woman is just a transit point for him, then yes, he takes sex and leaves. Search for your dream, your love. All of them, even the most freedom-loving ones, have a secret dream that they won’t even reveal to themselves, but they really want to fall in love. And the most important thing is that they are loved. Unconditional, all-encompassing love. And if they don’t meet one, they close.
They, like frightened animals, run away from relationships, and there are a number of explanations for this.
For example, women's financial concerns. Many successful men do not even advertise their success and material wealth, so as not to become a victim of hunters for rich men.
In addition, men are polygamous by nature, and it is difficult for them to remain sexually attracted to one woman.
And in general, they are lazy, and when they hear the word “family” they see continuous responsibilities and worries. Often they see how friends have changed after getting married. And the body’s natural reaction is to escape.
But let's not talk about sad things, and let's figure out what men want us to see.
They divide women into 4 categories. And they communicate with these categories in turn, in accordance with their requests.
Sexual partner- liberated and reckless. Capable of any man’s experiments and fantasies, always ready for sex with her partner. This gives a man confidence in his masculine viability. It is advisable for her to have body proportions most suitable for childbearing. But I’ll reassure you, any woman has such proportions if she takes even a little care of herself. Element - Fire
Friend- common interests, so that a man and a woman can consult with each other, and know that the other side will always understand and support. It is on this facet of relationships that people should have the same level of development. Although it is very good if a man knows more, he also takes on the role of teacher in the relationship. And in general, it’s good for a woman to be a leader in this friendship, a la a silly girl, to artistically fulfill her role. But at the same time, a man should know that you are not stupid at all. You should have fun and feel comfortable together. It is very good to show your helplessness in certain issues in which a man will be pleased to help you. You must be diplomatic. Element - Water.
Queen- a self-sufficient person, smart and independent. In social life she has achieved something, is interested in something, is of interest to other men, but is unapproachable to them. A man should be proud to have such a woman next to him. Men in general are terrible show-offs, and will be happy to help you reach certain heights, just to be proud of their Woman. Element - Air
Mistress- she must surround her partner with care in everyday life. She must cook several of a man's favorite dishes better than anyone else. A man should want to come home knowing that the very best is waiting for him by the fireside. best woman. A man should be confident that his offspring are in good hands when you have children. Element - Earth.
Now let's come down from heaven to earth. Hand on heart, performing all the roles without hesitation throughout your entire life - you can go crazy! But still, if we want a harmonious relationship, something needs to be done about it.
First, decide which of these roles suits you best. We all have a certain character, habits, interests. Therefore, 1-2 roles from this list will not be difficult for you even initial stage. But the remaining edges will have to be worked on a little.
It’s just that a man always finds a logical solution to everything. If a woman cannot cope with one of the above roles, he looks for people who can give it to him. And no matter how strong feelings he felt for his own wife. This is why lovers, boyfriends, side affairs, and so on appear. Do you need it?
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But I will reassure you, men also have roles that they also manifest unevenly, and here women have the opportunity not to work hard, but simply find a suitable man. A man is looking for a woman who will complement and strengthen him.
Artist (water and fire) - a man in whom sensuality is most manifested. He has a rich imagination and creates new things. Creative personality, follows a dream. Indifferent to everyday life, stingy and generous at the same time. Needs self-care. He praises a woman, but is unable to provide for her. Inventive in bed. Will search Queen and Mistress (air and earth). Bitchy and practical, capable of creating comfort, cooking deliciously, planning and organizing everyday life. She becomes the leader in the family. There's a problem here. Such women, as a rule, look for equally strong and successful men, not paying attention to Artists.
Artist (earth and water) - a man in whom practicality and sensitivity prevail. He perfectly captures people's mood and gets his way. Not prone to sentimentality and romanticism. Little predictable, prone to risk, optimistic, decisive. Strives for power and glory. Loves variety, seeks new sensations. Will search Sexual partner and Queen (fire and air). A woman should be sensible and sexy. Devilishly smart, outwardly cold, and liberated in sex. A man should doubt her feelings. This woman’s bitchiness only inflames a man’s desire to give gifts to his queen. She masterfully teases her man, turning him away from everyday problems.
Powerful king (air and earth) - a man in whom practicality and logic prevail. This is a born leader, he rarely suffers defeat, and is merciless towards his enemies. Requires obedience and order from those around him. He has a strong will, is purposeful and persistent. Knows how to show strength. Will search Friend and Sexual partner (water and fire). She will decorate his life, admire his achievements, and introduce unpredictability into his gray, measured life. And even if he doesn’t like the mess at home, he will take it calmly and pamper his sweet eccentric.
Explorer (fire and air) - A man has strong logic and intuition, masculine strength. They don’t care about everyday life and are indifferent to money. Capable of earning a lot and spending it right away. He doesn't understand feelings well and doesn't let anyone get close to him. He appears cold and reserved, but is passionate by nature. Will search Friend and Mistress (water and earth). Tasteful and neat. Her home is always cozy and open to guests. She is always ready to support and caress. She must conduct all affairs and create the appearance that the man is in charge. I must support him in everything.
Men are more stable in their manifestations, and it is very difficult to change them. And a woman is able to cultivate the missing qualities in herself. We are more plastic, and if we want, we can cultivate everything within ourselves. We have a choice - to meet someone who is ideal for us, or to cultivate the necessary qualities in ourselves. Of course, this can be called a choice with a stretch, because in any case we adapt.
So, you need to first understand which female roles you are most comfortable with. Arrange all four roles in order so that the most familiar roles are in first place, then in descending order. And now look at what you need to cultivate in yourself. Based on priority positions, you can easily determine which partner is right for you. But for the rest, you still need to develop at least a little ability. Ideally, you can swim in all four elements like a fish in water.
Is everything complicated in a relationship? Want to know everything about your partner? Confused about yourself? That way !
How exactly to cultivate certain roles in yourself if some role is not yours at all?
Sexual partner. Go for strip plastic surgery. Work on your body. I also recently found out that in Moscow there are trainings where they teach oral sex, Thai sex, and tell how to give a man the greatest pleasure. I even visited “Oral Sex”, learning that there are about 50 types of just these caresses. Can you imagine how happy your partner will be if you show him something? You can also learn massage, understand all types of sex, this is literature, the Internet. Sea of sources! And don't be shy. This is your development, and not debauchery, as those who remained on the stove will exclaim.
Friend. In this element, preparation may be unnecessary. It’s just that when there is already a specific partner, you are interested in his hobbies and become his ally. But the interest must be genuine. You find some information on this topic and discuss it. You get involved in his business headlong and begin to love your Man’s business. Why not? But you shouldn’t impose yourself either. Otherwise he’s going fishing with his friends, and here you are... They’re planning a drinking party, and you’re like customs control))) It’s great if you can interest him in your hobbies. Or come up with a new business that will interest him. It's ideal if you make friends based on a common interest. Start doing something together, and be his support, appreciate his achievements. Always defend his interests in any company as if they were your own. In difficult moments, find the right words.
Queen. Be self-sufficient and practice it. In your work, try to achieve something. Improve your professional level. Communicate, take public speaking courses. Learn some poems, proverbs, quotes, jokes. Learn to dance, learn etiquette. Consult a stylist about what color suits you, what clothes, what hairstyle. You must have a special style. Practice your gait, posture, and gestures. Love yourself, treat yourself to beauty salons more often, make it a habit. Don't wait for someone who will take care of you, become a well-groomed woman.
Mistress. Here you can work both BEFORE and AFTER meeting a Man. Well, first of all, neat appearance- mandatory minimum condition. A sloppy woman will most likely not be able to become a good housewife. You can learn to cook some delicious dishes, especially meat. To learn to understand interior design, you can attend such courses or read books. You can learn to sew and knit. Embroider some kind of napkin, or knit a scarf. But the main work is when you find out his preferences and fantasies. Learn what is important to him, what he loves and wants to see in everyday life. It is very useful to become friends with the mother of our subject. This is a good thing in every way, and unless she is a monster like I was, being friends with her will be a good thing for your relationship and will greatly flatter your man. She will also be happy to tell you about her son’s preferences, and also teach you how to cook what he likes. Use this knowledge and develop new recipes, only yours. Gradually accustom him to the idea that you are the best housewife.
Well, if you can master all the roles, not a single man will escape you, believe me! They are logical creatures, and why should they look for variety in sex on the side if his partner can do everything, and you have a trusting, open relationship? Why should he be friends with some ladies if any of his adventures will find support in your person? Why should he admire someone if the queen is nearby? Why should he run away from home to work or to see friends if he is comfortable at home, if he is drawn there?
Yes, and here's another thing. Jealousy. Get rid of this feeling. It comes from self-doubt. Understand that if a person needs to change, he will do it. Therefore, it is working on yourself that will bring real results in this matter. You must know and exude self-confidence with every cell of your being. If a man has already seen the ideal in you, then he will not leave. Feel free to let him go. It's even better if he walks around a little longer. Show him how good it can be with you and let him go! It's like in fishing, when you pull a fish out, you need to feel it, and if it jerks sharply, you need to let it go a little, otherwise it will break. So let him meet someone else and make sure that it’s better with you. Know how to let go gracefully, without explanations or showdowns. If this is your man, he will come back. And if not, then thank God he left. But after such a “walk” he will cling to you and never let go. He must mature to realize that he is ready to build a relationship. Myself. You can only indirectly help him in making such an important decision.
If you have come to this page, you are interested in building harmonious relationships. I have great respect for people who seek and engage in self-knowledge. Have you tried studying physiognomy? This knowledge will help you “read” any person and make the right impression on a man.
Knowing the strengths/weaknesses of a person, you will always influence the right points. By learning to read a man's non-verbal behavior, you will read his thoughts!
Don’t delay, because time is running out... Moreover, you can start now and absolutely free!
STUDY PHYSIOGNOMY, it is the best tool for life!
HOW WILL PHYSIOGNOMY BE USEFUL TO YOU PERSONALLY?
6 reasons to study physiognomy right now:
1. You will know ALL THE SECRETS of people, because the face is always in sight. To do this, you will not need any data about the person - no last name, no first name, no patronymic, no date, no time, no place of birth, no passport details, no details of his current account - NOTHING!
3. You will increase your income by an average of 40%
4. You will build a strong family without wasting time on mistakes
6. You won't need a lie detector
Knowing what men need from girls allows the fair sex to become better people and not miss the chance to build a happy union with their chosen one. Typically, representatives of the stronger sex value loyalty, the ability to listen and sympathize, thriftiness and other qualities in ladies. Their presence significantly increases the “cost” of a woman on the “bride market”.
Understanding
This is desired not only by representatives of the stronger sex. Everyone wants to have an understanding person nearby. What do men look for in women if not acceptance and support? Therefore, girls who want to build strong relationships with their chosen ones should learn to accept their men for who they are. If there are moments that irritate or cause anxiety, you should not immediately point out them, grumble and get annoyed.
Loyalty
The obvious answer to the question of what men look for in women is fidelity. Every representative of the stronger sex would like to have a devoted life partner nearby, in whom he could be one hundred percent confident. If a man has to go on a business trip or circumstances turn out to be such that they have to stay away from each other for some time, he should not have a shadow of a doubt that his chosen one may cheat on him. Everyone needs not just a beloved, but a faithful friend who will never betray under any circumstances.
This quality is especially appreciated by those men who are interested in dating for Serious relationships. If a person is simply looking for someone to have fun with, the question of fidelity is unlikely to be as relevant for him as for someone who plans to start a family with a girl. Therefore, here ladies need to be especially careful: in order to prove their seriousness, they do not have to tell their partner about their reliability. The main thing is to demonstrate this with your behavior.
Listening skills
People are wondering about the question of what men need for complete happiness. simple women, and professional psychologists. Research shows that the ability to listen sensitively is often the most important skill in a woman for the stronger sex.
Often men have to hear the phrase from ladies: “I told you so!” If this is the case, the girl needs to work on herself seriously and as soon as possible. It is necessary to learn to listen to your chosen one without reading notations, trying to enter into his position. There is no need to shout that he is again taking the wrong step, which he himself will later regret. Instead, you can simply sit next to your lover, hug your lover and listen silently.
If he needs advice, you can unobtrusively comment on the situation. With such a lady, a man will always share his joys and sorrows, without hiding anything and without fear.
Thrift
Girls used to be taught from a young age that the way to a man’s heart runs through his stomach. The lady who knows how to cook and run a house well is endowed with a great advantage. But what if a woman simply doesn’t have enough time to improve her skills in cooking borscht and baking pies? Here you can manifest creativity and organize your life so that both are happy. For example, in the movie "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" she does not know how to cook, but her lover is always full and happy. After all, she orders food at home, and after that she sets the table. This is how economic talent manifests itself, the ability to feed one’s chosen one in any situation.
This character quality is also often especially valuable for men interested in dating for a serious relationship. After all, such a love affair in the future involves living together and maintaining everyday life. Men often turn out to be pragmatists in this matter. If, up to a certain age, a gentleman can endure any whims of his beloved, just to be close to her, then as he grows up, men’s tastes transform. A mature man always assesses the situation more adequately. He will prefer to build a life together not with the lady who causes a storm of emotions, but with the one who knows how to cook a delicious dinner and make the house cozy.
The ability to be grateful
Gratitude for the attention and gifts of your chosen one is always better than coldness and misplaced pride. How does a man show interest in a woman? He does it different ways:
- strives to spend more time with his beloved;
- offers assistance;
- listens to her carefully;
- and, of course, gives gifts.
As in any human communication, for all this the representatives of the stronger sex seek gratitude from the ladies. Otherwise, it will be a shame to invest time, effort, and finances in a girl. Therefore, gratitude is often the quality that men look for in women. For representatives of the stronger sex, it is important not only a woman’s ability to support them, but also the ability to appreciate what they have, what they are able to give. Whether you gave him a diamond ring or simply picked him up from work, you definitely need to thank him. And it’s worth doing it with all your heart. If flattery causes offense, then sincere gratitude is the desire to make your woman even happier.
Communication skills
“What do men look for in women?” - those ladies who at first glance seem ideal torment themselves with questions. They have a beautiful appearance, they are pleasant in communication with men, mysterious and unobtrusive. But sometimes it happens that a woman who is ideal in all respects turns out to be lonely. Moreover, her loneliness extends not only to her personal life, but also to other areas - this ideal lady may have absolutely no friends or acquaintances.
Many representatives of the stronger sex are looking for a woman who would have her own social life. They will prefer a girl who loves to spend time with her friends, and not just spend all evenings with her lover. Some men will even appreciate a girl who doesn’t forbid herself to sit for an hour or two in a bar after work, talking with her colleague. At first glance, the social aspect does not seem to be a critical factor - such as appearance, education or, for example, tact. But in reality, many men notice how many girlfriends their chosen one has and what kind of relationship connects her with them.
Positive outlook on the world
Why do many men value a sense of humor and optimism in ladies? At first glance, the answer to this question is obvious: it is always more pleasant to spend time with a cheerful woman than with a sad one. But there are deeper reasons to value a positive outlook on the world. The marriage of a man and a woman is a serious undertaking. Family life is not at all a series of happy and carefree days, as young lovers sometimes imagine it to be.
In reality, marriage often turns out to be a serious test for both partners. Every person has to overcome many difficulties in his or her life. Marriage, on the one hand, represents a reliable rear in which you can hide from adversity. On the other hand, the family itself can become a source of problems. Some have children and have to face psychological and financial difficulties. Others discover that their personalities are not as similar as they seemed during the candy-bouquet period. Still others face professional difficulties and begin to seek support from a partner.
A sense of humor, self-irony, and the ability to rise above oneself are important qualities that are lacking in such situations. When a woman overloads herself with problems, a similar vision of the world begins to be transmitted to the man. Some strive to protect themselves from it, others cannot build such a psychological barrier. What kind of women are interested in men - those who lose heart at the very first trials, or those who are able to support both themselves and their lover? The answer to this question is obvious: strong women the chances of building a strong family union are much greater.
“What a man needs from a woman to be happy”- I have been asked this question in different versions several dozen times already, both in consultations and in personal communication. For example, there is 
a guy or man who first dated one girl/woman and ended up marrying another. And the question looked something like this. " But why does this happen? Why is there no logic and justice? What else does he need to be happy? Well, well, she would be much smarter, prettier, a better cook, etc.
But this is not the case. I(girl asking question) much nicer. I’m definitely smarter, I’m a better cook, I’m much better at holding a conversation, I earn better money, etc. So why did my boyfriend leave me? What more do these guys need? I do not understand them. What does a man need from a woman so that he becomes happy with me and doesn’t leave me?”
There are not just many such questions, but a lot. More than half of the consultations are on this topic. They are sent by email to the administrator, they are asked in our group Sunny hands VKontakte, they are asked in the comments to my articles. Or they order paid consultations. Look
Whenever possible, I answer them in articles and books. Of course, the main and simple answer is that men are not women. They may have completely different needs. And what is important to women may not be of any importance to them.
However, these are general words and in this article I systematized the basic needs (not declared, but real) of ordinary standard men, of whom there are 80-90 percent. So, let's look at several important aspects that a man actually needs from a woman in order for him to become happy with her.
Need number one. A man needs victory to be happy.
A man needs victory, probably no less than a woman needs family, children, stability.
Well, of course, not just victory, but running around, bustling, overcoming difficulties, and then victory. Victory in business, in sports achievements, in career growth, in financial matters (and everything connected with this), in assessing other males, etc.
If a man himself is not able to organize his successes, then he can be content with the victories of the team (the place where he works, the team in sports, or even his team on TV, Russia, in the end).
Men who are over 40 and who are already pretending that they don’t want anything are only trying to engage in self-deception so that they don’t feel bitter. I have seen dozens of transformations when someone said that he had enough of everything and needed nothing more. Then, due to various life circumstances(there was nowhere to go), won in some area of life and completely changed. Again he needs results, victory. (It is clear that this need did not go away, but was simply dormant)
However, there are women and girls who, by their behavior, contribute to a man’s victories, and there are those who contribute to his defeats or the fact that he does not even try to achieve anything (which, in fact, is also a defeat)
In other words, those women who let a man’s achievements take their course, and even more so resist them, do not satisfy one of the most basic needs of their man—to make him happy with her.
And if so, then you may no longer ask: “Why am I, smart and beautiful, and he went to an ugly fool?”?
Yes, she may be ugly and not as smart as you think, but she does at least something for her man’s success, and not the other way around, blocking him.
I cannot write here in detail about how to contribute to a man’s success. This requires a separate article or even a book. It is clear that you need to be interested, praise real successes and even the most minimal efforts that your loved one makes to achieve success, put up with the fact that part of the family budget and time is spent on various incomprehensible things, etc. I recommend reading “Your husband’s success, are you ready for it?” .
But I’ll repeat it again. Success is no less important for a man than family is for a woman. If you are 
understand, then you are already on the right path to ensuring that a man never for 50 years of your life together I didn’t even think about leaving somewhere. You will understand what a man needs from a woman first of all in order to become happy with her.
So, ask a man what he wants to achieve in life? We are talking not so much about the material signs of success, but about its reasons. That is, where and what does he want to win?
After his answer, ask what needs to be done for this? (Usually this is special training, business training, training in sales skills or the ability to manage people, or something else)
How to make sure that every day he allocates at least 1-2 hours to win? (Usually this is training in something and work)
Secondly, in order to become happy with a woman, a man needs protection from severe defeats.
Severe defeats are something that can lead a man to lie on the couch for a couple of years, and maybe even lead to the fact that he stops striving for anything at all. This is not a completely obvious point for guys who are 15-25 years old, but those who are older will understand me.
The obvious challenge, therefore, is to avoid such severe defeats. (Defeats, of course, from the point of view of a man, not a woman. From a woman’s point of view, this may be a worthless event) After strong defeats, a man may want to live alone for several years, or simply cease to be interesting to a woman.
Light failures, on the contrary, make a man stronger and more adequate. (But it is clear that it is not a series of defeats over 10 years).
But the point is that a man, especially in his youth, rarely understands what risks, unpredictability, and the need for caution are and, accordingly, cannot do the obvious things to avoid the strongest risks.
However, a woman has this quality and, in addition, she has the advantage of seeing from the outside.
There is an obvious conclusion here. If your man strives to “get in” somewhere and “run” after success, then look at the possible risks. If the risk is insignificant, then let him run, even if he may lose. Even if something doesn’t work out 100%, but the risk is negligible, but there is an opportunity to gain experience (for example, entrepreneurial), then you can try.
If the risk is significant, then make sure that the man abandons his undertaking.
For example, if a man wants to fight with a group of drunken and “evil” people alone, then it is better to do everything to prevent this from happening. (Except extreme cases) Risk of fracture, disability, etc. quite big. If he wants to sell the apartment, borrow more money and start his own business, then of course it’s better to dissuade him.
Conversely, if he wants to start a business with minimal funds or wants to learn something that can somehow advance his career, then support him. Even if it doesn’t work out, nothing bad will happen.
I won’t give many examples here, since you women already sense danger better than men. Just at the right time or support your loved one
It probably seems to you that I am saying obvious and simple things that all women do anyway. However, I dare to assure you that this is not so. Most girls either do not pay any attention to the achievements of their loved ones (I mean systematic actions, of course, and not slogans), or do not stop him when he clearly gets into trouble.
Need three. Banter, jokes.
Without this, he will never be completely happy. If you have ever seen a company of 3-4 men, you will almost certainly see constant humor, jokes, banter (sometimes a bit harsh, in your opinion). With rare exceptions, humor and banter are one of the strongest needs of men. 
After all, our life, even full of achievements, is generally quite routine and boring. Those who can support laughter and practical jokes are always appreciated. For some reason, for men, humor (in their interpretation, however), for some reason means very, very much.
For example, you can watch several episodes of the Russian TV series “Interns”, where several quite adult guys do nothing but joke, argue with someone, cheat with pleasure, etc. And it is precisely this seemingly nonsense activity that makes up the meaning of the heroes’ lives. (Not work or study)
The value of humor for men (male humor, of course), according to my observations, is several times higher than for women.
A woman’s ability to hook a man (not too hard), to fight off his advances (this must be done all the time) 
life, otherwise he will never respect you. Read the book about how to gain the respect of a man. “19 mistakes with men. How can you make him respect and love you?”), to understand and sincerely laugh at his jokes or those of others, but which are funny to him - this is a quality that is valued by men in women as worth its weight in gold.
In other words, if on one side of the scale we put two higher educations from a woman, the ability to cook and speak intelligently, and on the other - the ability to joke, understand jokes, a general cheerful mood and understanding of the sense of humor (male), then the sense of humor will certainly outweigh many times, don't even doubt it.
Then the question is. You need to spend 10 years getting 2 higher educations and a few more years learning to cook (which is useful in principle, but without going overboard) and reading a lot of smart books, or a couple of months learning to understand male humor, humor in general, and learn to enjoy gentle banter?
And what will be the answer of most girls? Of course, you need to get higher education, read boring books to become smarter and do a lot of other necessary things.
Well than more girls thinks so, the more questions there will be like: “Why am I smart and beautiful, and he went to someone stupid and ugly?”
Again, I'm not telling you not to go to college, stop learning to cook, or stop reading a lot of books. Do what you consider necessary and important. Just understand that these skills are of secondary importance to meeting men's basic needs.
And if a man’s basic needs are not met, he leaves. This I hope is obvious.
Again a little comparison. If a man has a good face, figure and mind, but does not want to provide for his family, does not want to get married and does not want children, then is this man good? The overwhelming majority of women will leave him, no matter how handsome and smart he is, since he does not satisfy a woman’s basic needs.
It's the same with men. What does a man need from a woman to become happy? This is the satisfaction of basic needs.
Basic needs are satisfied - he is with you forever. If they are not satisfied, they leave completely, cheat, close themselves psychologically, drink, etc., depending on their character.
Need four. A man needs a rest.
Ask yourself, what is vacation for you? Women answer this question differently. It could be a get-together with friends, it could be time to read a magazine. For some, it’s even cleaning the house or cooking something delicious.
For men, proper rest usually means silence, lying on the couch and other ways of doing nothing. And preferably completely alone.
That is, one of the basic needs of a man is rest. This rest is simple and, among other things, it is a rest from the woman you love.
It’s still amazing to me how this one of the simplest and most obvious needs of a man to understand is so often and grossly violated. And it is clear that a man, without loneliness and rest, begins to cling and find fault with you over all sorts of little things, because of which serious conflicts then flare up, up to the divorce of families and the division of property.
Why is that?
Yes, actually it is clear. After all, a man’s need for rest and solitude is not a trifle at all, but a basic need. And in fact, it is not so difficult to satisfy her.
For the average man, it is enough for him to be alone for about 1 hour a day and leave him alone for 3-4 hours once a week. (at work, at home or otherwise, it doesn’t matter).
It is clear that there are different circumstances (sometimes this is impossible) and different men, but try to take this criterion as a basis and perhaps you will be surprised at the effect.
So, rest is a man’s basic need. Typically, rest for a man means loneliness or some unprofitable and meaningless activity (fishing, for example, talking with friends for nothing, sleeping during the day, etc.) If the basic need is not satisfied, then there can be any reason for a quarrel.
Need five. What a man needs from a woman to be happy? — Of course sex.
An even more obvious answer, but sometimes women don’t see it point blank. There are extenuating circumstances (small children, illness), but even in these conditions the issue can be resolved. Sometimes there is no sex for completely far-fetched reasons, like “my head hurts, I’m offended, or something else.”
But it’s obvious that if you leave a man without sex for a long time, then after some time another woman (mistress) is simply bound to appear, with whom he will cheat on you. And then the question may arise about completely moving to another woman.
In these circumstances, it is possible to say that a man is bad, betrayed, or something similar and, most likely, the woman will be right in her own way. On the other hand, you need to understand what your behavior can lead to what results.
Satisfy the basic needs of men, learn how to satisfy your basic needs and you will not get away from each other.
So, so that the article does not become immense in size, I will summarize this point.
Being a hero for a woman is an extremely powerful need for a man. If it seems to him that he is not worthy of you, is not attracted to you, something that he has (we are not talking about material things, but about character and abilities) does not admire you, then he will most likely leave or the relationship will develop extremely difficult. Because the state of “non-hero” does not make a man happy in a relationship with a woman.
As with all of the above examples, it doesn't matter how things actually turn out. The main thing is how a man feels. Admire others less, appreciate what is in your partner and tell him about it sometimes. That's the whole truth.
Let's summarize the article. Satisfying a man's basic needs is what causes a man to value a woman. This is what a man needs from a woman to become happy.
Best regards, Rashid Kirranov.