Netizens discussed 10 qualities that girls with special charm have.
In Korea, "maeryuk", which translates to "unique attractiveness", is considered as important a trait as beauty or kindness. The boundaries of this uniqueness can range from manifestations of masculinity, femininity, charm, and other qualities that make you stand out from the crowd.
The original post appeared on Pann, In it, netizens have compiled a list of qualities in a girl that can turn a guy off.
“10 qualities in girls that repel guys,” below you will find the translation of the article and user comments.
"1. Girls who are not easy to talk to. When a man tries to interest them in a conversation, the girls have fun themselves and don’t even know how to answer. They don’t even know how to start and continue a conversation correctly.”
“2. Shy girls think that they are not interesting because they are not sociable and do not know how to be funny in communication. But this is all wrong, girls without “maeryuk” cannot know why men are not interested in them.”
“3. Girls who think there are no men around them because they have a cold heart and are too chic, when in fact they just don’t have that special trait.”
"4. Girls who have no sexual attractiveness and who don’t know what men want from a relationship. They just think that all men are the same and they need the same things.”
"5. Girls who think that just positive reactions to guys' conversations make her special. But they don’t understand the difference between them and the popular girls around.”
“6. Girls who don’t understand or don’t want to understand what makes them unique. They just blindly believe that they have some attractive feature.”
“7. Girls with too high demands. The guy must be at least 180 cm tall, attractive, with a good body and kind. They don’t care what the men around them think of them and naively believe that they fit above average standards.”
"8. Girls who complain to everyone around them about relationship problems. Everyone has their problems, but these girls are just driving everyone crazy with theirs. And they don’t even understand what they’re doing.”
"9. A girl who thinks that if a guy looks at her, it means he likes her. Girls make this mistake all the time. Some attractive girls can tell guys' signs from mere glances, but these girls can't.”
"10. Girls who are proud or stubborn even in small things. And when people try to express their opinion to them, they don’t even know how to listen to advice and simply ignore it.”
[ +284 / -3] Are you talking about me now? You're just describing me... That's probably why there aren't any guys around me
[ +197 / -3] When I read articles like this... I wonder what my unique feature is...
[ +59 / -2] But do people have to be funny? ? People with the same interests always find each other. I will be respectful and keep the conversation going, but I won't seek out someone who isn't right for me just to talk to someone. I want to find someone who will appreciate me for who I am, because sooner or later they would recognize the real me. Like, for example, the author of this post doesn’t want to date a girl who isn’t funny, but I want to meet someone who looks a little deeper. I think that as long as there is chemistry between people, that's enough to keep the conversation going. I think it's personal preference.
[ +55 / -7]Guys who don't have an attractive feature = guys who write articles like this
[ +48 / -4] Another offensive post... First think about whether there is something special about you
Every girl who is into K-pop has ever dreamed of dating a Korean guy. Of course, few people will be lucky enough to start a relationship with an Asian, but if you finally decided and sold your soul for a cute Korean, then you should know all the pros and cons of such a relationship.
Happy reading hehe~
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Let's start with the positives.
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1. Next to you is the second Lee Minho.
Well, if not Minho, then some Korean fashion diva for sure, because on every date your boyfriend will look like he stepped off the cover of a magazine a few seconds ago. And it doesn’t matter at all where you and him are going: sit in a cafe, take a walk in the park or wander along the river bank. Don’t be surprised by your hairstyle, foundation, colored contact lenses, or even special insoles that increase your height by several cm. And don’t flatter yourself too much, because all these sacrifices are not so much for you, but for yourself, your loved one and those around you. (but still nice: sweet_smile:)
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2. You are constantly in touch.
And indeed it is. What do our Russian guys do? They only write when they accidentally remember you. A Korean guy will remember you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You will communicate constantly! Over time, this begins to get boring, but don’t forget - this is how they show, first of all, care.
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3. Oppa will do anything.
In Korea, age determines how people should address each other. That's why when a guy is older than a girl, she calls him "oppa." But in fact, it doesn’t matter at all how old you are, because if a guy is truly interested in you, he will one way or another behave like an oppa, that is, he will take responsibility for you onto his shoulders: they will protect you, feed you and not give you be sad. In addition, I noticed such a funny thing... Koreans themselves really like to call themselves “oppa”. For example, instead of saying "I'll buy dinner for you", he will say "oppa will buy dinner for you." In general, hanguks are very well trained in manners in terms of communicating with girls.
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4. Special holidays for couples.
This is perhaps the strangest and, at the same time, coolest thing about dating a Korean. After all, there are a million such holidays! Let me list a few main ones:
22nd day since the beginning of the relationship, 100th day, 200th day, 300th day, year, two, three, Valentine's Day, White Day, Christmas, Couples Day, Rose Day, Peperro Day, Kiss Day, Hug Day, Birthday and so on Further.
And for each of these holidays, the guy is obliged to give something to his beloved. As a rule, these are sweets, a teddy bear and a bouquet.
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This is where the advantages end. Let's move on to the negative aspects of “meetings” with Koreans.
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5. No personal life.
You will be checked. Always. Everywhere. In everything. Forget about personal correspondence on social networks - he will study every dialogue from cover to cover. Forget what it’s like to go out with your friends at night - they won’t let you go. And if they let you go, you will regret it, because you will be obliged to answer calls (thousands of calls), SMS (tens of thousands of SMS) or even take photographs of your clothes and everything that surrounds you.
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6. Jealousy.
90% of arguments in a couple with a Korean will arise because you looked at the other guy, talked to the other guy, thought about the other guy, breathed next to the other guy, and so on. Therefore, everything that concerns other guys (even those shown on TV) is taboo. Unconditionally.
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7. "We won't remain friends"
In Russia, it often happens that after breaking up, a guy and a girl remain friends. This is unacceptable in Korea. The fact is that there is a clear rule “there is no friendship between opposite sexes” and Koreans strictly observe this rule.
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8. Well, the creepiest thing. Meeting his friends.
Be prepared for the fact that, once in his company, you will be examined from all sides, discussed, questioned and looked for flaws. For his friends, you must be ideal: obedient, quiet, sweet, modest, have never smoked in your life, do not know what alcohol and obscene words are, in addition, your makeup should be natural, and your clothes should look like you are presenting news on federal channel.
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It's quite rare to see a Korean guy dating a girl of a different nationality. Some believe that this is because Korean guys are against interracial dating and therefore choose only a girl of their own nationality. However, this is just a misconception and the truth is that Koreans are, for the most part, very shy. And even if they are interested in you, their timid nature may make them hesitant to show any interest.
What can you do? If you notice that the Korean guy you like is afraid to make the first move, don't be afraid, make him the first. But before you decide to go on the hunt to catch your love, here are some things you should know.
- They like it when you call them oppa
As you know, all Koreans are united by the fact that they love being oppas. They will even say to themselves in the 3rd person, “Oppa will take care of you,” “Oppa loves you.” They will appreciate you more if you allow them to take on this role.
- They like to be the same
From the same clothes to the same phone, your Korean boyfriend will most likely give you the same things, and of course expect you to use them. They are not afraid to show that someone has appeared in their life, on the contrary, they love to show off.
- They like to celebrate small anniversaries
It is known that Koreans love to celebrate the first month, 100 days, 200 days, 300 days, first year together. Also, every month on the 14th, in Korea it is considered a holiday for lovers. Of course, if it's February 14th, it's Valentine's Day, but there is also a rose day, a kiss day, a photo day, etc. He may appreciate that you want to celebrate these days with him and only him.
- They are good at communication
Korean guys never forget about you if you are far away. They will call, write SMS. This is normal for them and of course they will expect the same from you. If you're not used to this type of relationship, it can be a little overwhelming and unfamiliar for the first time.
- They are jealous
One of the hardest things when dating a Korean guy is their low tolerance when dating the opposite sex. Most Koreans believe that there is no such thing as friendship between a man and a woman. While this doesn't mean you can't have guy friends, you may need to take time to "calm him down" and reassure him that he's the one for you.
- They take care of themselves
The best thing about Korean men is that they dress really well. From great clothes to great haircuts. You should try to look the part.
- They will feed you
Food is a very important part in Korean culture. In Korea, food is offered everywhere and always, for example, after passing an exam or getting a new position. One of the most popular questions your Korean boyfriend will ask you is “Have you eaten yet?” Nothing will make him happier than sharing a big portion together. Start your practice with chopsticks and kimchi. He will appreciate it.
Tell me, have you ever met a Korean? Share your thoughts and ideas in the comments.
Relationships between boys and girls are always a topic on which one cannot speak unambiguously. Some people are lucky, and some people will be lucky next time. I can't say that international couples in Seoul are something very common. Rather, this is the exception rather than the rule. Sometimes you can still see a Korean woman with a foreigner, but a Korean with a foreigner (not just after a club, but right hand in hand and to look at the stars) is not a very common type of relationship.
Let me remind you that everything written is my personal experience, which was collected either from my own impressions or from the stories of friends and acquaintances who also live in Korea. This is not one hundred percent true and it is not necessary that if you decide to come to Korea that everything will be exactly like this, it is just something that you need to be prepared for.
So, foreigners are different for Koreans. The first criterion is appearance. It can be either European or Asian. Further - knowledge of the language. You can know the Korean language or not, and the inability to conduct a dialogue at the level of an almost native speaker is equated to ignorance, because “you’re in Korea.” Attitude to different types foreigners are lined up accordingly. If a Korean thinks that the girl is not a foreigner, but a Korean, then he will behave accordingly. Modest, respectful. And with a foreigner, such behavior is desirable, but not necessary. And it’s clear that without long conversations, a guy in any country is unlikely to sincerely fall in love with a soul, which means you shouldn’t expect something like that from Koreans if you don’t speak Korean well.
I mentioned one more point "golden antelope". If a foreigner is invited to eat together, the cordiality of the Koreans may or may not work. Who pays at the first meeting? Korean women unanimously answer: “Guy.” A Korean guy is already starting to think in the case of a foreigner. Perhaps he will pay, but... “I’ll pay here, and you’ll pay in the next place (which will cost many times more)” or “you’re in Korea, and we have a democracy, and girls pay for dinner.” Sometimes you really want to explain the meaning of the word “democracy”. Once we discussed this issue with foreign friends, and girls of Asian appearance are less likely to encounter such “pay” from Koreans at the first meeting, while Europeans are rich...
A little more about Korean rules. A Korean guy will teach a foreign girl. “That’s how it is with us. We go straight to the motel. Our girls don’t refuse guys. Our girl pays. We only have to eat Korean food (it's just cheaper than European food). We need to drink a lot (it's true, okay). Our girl should be the first to write and invite her to meetings. Our girl has to come to the other end of the city at night if the guy calls. You’re in Korea, so live like a Korean.” There is no need to adapt to anyone. If you are in Korea, this does not make you Korean. Korean women don't do any of the above. And Korean women are similar to us in matters of construction Serious relationships. There is no need to try to please someone and “become a jerk.” Otherwise, all the discontent will continue and then with the words: “Well, you’re not Korean...” You need to bear your nationality proudly! There will definitely be someone who will not “accuse” you of being a foreigner at every step. It's normal to not be born in Korea. Nearly seven billion people did just that.
Now further. The boys themselves. They are also different: young (students) and adults (working). There are also old ones, but I don’t know anything about them. So, students. Most likely, they want to increase their self-esteem and show off to their friends. Dating a foreigner is quite prestigious for a Korean. Your friends will be jealous - that's for sure. But you need to understand that even for the Koreans themselves, student relations are student relations and nothing more. Each semester the guy or girl in this relationship may change. Now adults, working Koreans. It depends on your luck. Someone will simply want to “cheat” a foreign woman for food (that is, she will pay) or for something more. Watch very carefully. But there are also adequate people who are looking for a serious relationship, but with a foreigner. Some people really don’t want to “bother” with a Korean woman, because many Korean women themselves don’t want all the “marriages”, “children”, “weddings”. That’s when older Koreans pay attention to foreign women. But there is another option - when Korean women don’t need “such good things”. Here you need to think ten times.
I’m not saying that all Koreans are like this and that their attitude towards foreign women leaves much to be desired. Of course, there are those for whom the issue of nationality will come last. But for this it is better to know mutual language to understand each other. Plus you need to consider your location. If you are in Korea, then the golden rule will work for Koreans: “Since you are in Korea, then live by our rules.” There is no need to trust the Koreans, because this is, in any case, a different, albeit safe, country. Koreans know how to court girls and act very nice, but due to different cultural backgrounds, it is true that it is difficult for foreigners to understand when it is for real and when it is just for fun. Of course, in Korea everyone will diligently prove that they are so tolerant (but they will again say something about democracy) and, supposedly, respect the interests of everyone, but just try to mention that you don’t eat kimchi every day... :)
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😉 Greetings to new and regular visitors to this blog! Nowadays, many Russian girls dream of marrying a Korean. If you are interested in this topic, the information in this article and video will be useful to you.
Not long ago, Korean dramas with Russian dubbing appeared on the Internet, but they have already managed to win the sympathy of many viewers, in particular girls. Cute, slightly naive series about love differ significantly from domestic, and even more so, foreign films.
In them, the audience is presented with the image of a romantic, slightly shy and almost ideal guy.
As you may have guessed, we are talking about South Korean TV series, and, accordingly, the article is dedicated to men from South Korea. North Korea is a very closed country, but its “sister” is now experiencing a time of economic prosperity. She is open to the world, so it will not be difficult for a Russian girl to marry a Korean.
The mentality of Korean men
Actors of Korean dramas are truly handsome! But among ordinary guys you can also often meet guys with impeccable appearance. Modern Koreans, both women and men, pay a lot of attention to their face and figure.
Most of them use the services plastic surgeons are actively involved in sports. In Korea, there is now a fashion for “doll” appearance, so if you meet a guy with a specific, but slightly unnatural beauty, then most likely he is from South Korea.
In addition, most Korean men consider it normal to use cosmetics, including decorative ones. Why not? In this country high level life, and the vast majority of residents are city dwellers.
Well, now, actually, about mentality. Koreans are proud of their nation, they can’t stand being compared to the Japanese or Therefore, if you meet a guy, don’t even think about saying that for you they are all similar to each other.
It’s better to spend a little time on the Internet and study the differences in culture, character and even climate. Your friend will be pleased to hear that you understand this issue.
Of course, in real life, Korean guys are not as goody-goody as they are on screen. They, just like our compatriots, love to hang out in bars, drink Korean vodka and tell sharp jokes. However, when communicating with the fair sex, they are indeed a little shy.
But if the acquaintance has already taken place and the Korean likes you, then get ready for the fact that you will spend all your free time together. The guy may appear optimistic on the outside, but in reality he is a closed book.
It is very difficult to understand what is happening in his soul. Don't try to read the entire novel ahead of time. The time will come, and the man will gradually open up to you.
In Korea, it is considered bad manners to call your boyfriend (husband) by his first name, especially when he is older than the girl. There is a special address for this - “oppa”. Once upon a time, Korean women addressed their older brothers this way, but nowadays this word also extends to boyfriends.
Korean men in relationships
Koreans love going on dates. Usually meetings take place in cozy cafes. In general, there are a lot of places for recreation and entertainment in Korea. Local residents also love holidays and significant dates. Couples in love always celebrate the 100th day of their romance and give each other cute gifts.
Another interesting and slightly strange “custom” is wearing the same clothes. This could be, for example, denim suits and T-shirts. Stores encourage this fashion in every possible way and try to make good money on it.
Koreans subconsciously analyze a girl as a future wife. They want her to be like their mother. A man takes care of his beloved as if he were his wife - he feeds her, buys her clothes and trinkets. Of course, everyone does this according to their financial capabilities.
However, Korean men tend to dominate in relationships. Despite the fact that they are somewhat soft and feminine, Koreans clearly see themselves in the role of provider and protector. Losing their job is a tragedy for them. A husband sitting on his wife’s neck is from the science fiction section.
These guys love to text and call often. They expect attention and gratitude from girls. If your boyfriend buys you a T-shirt with hearts, then you should definitely wear it, even if you don't really like it.
Gifts and dinners for women in this country are taken for granted. True, on the streets of Seoul you can also meet guys who are waiting for an intimate reward for their generosity. However, there are plenty of them everywhere.
Korean family
Koreans are very respectful towards their elders, especially their mother. A mother-in-law can be a real problem for a foreign wife. You should not show your emancipation and authority in front of her.
Be kind and modest, know how to remain silent where you are not asked. Family values come first for Koreans. It is not difficult for a Korean to marry, because he is not afraid of marriage, but, on the contrary, strives for it. The main thing is to establish a relationship with his mother in advance.
Do Koreans cheat on their wives? Yes it is possible. However, for these men it is a secondary phenomenon. Typical Koreans will always place the interests of the family higher than having affairs on the side. It is in vain to expect Latin American love from them. Even in intimate relationships they are reserved and conservative.
Getting married early and having children is normal for a Korean. If your new friend is over 35 and not yet married, this is a reason to suspect that something is wrong with him. Avid Korean bachelors are either callous manipulators or losers.
True, there is another type - actors, singers, models... But with this you can walk longer.
The main rule for a Russian bride is that the husband’s relatives are sacred, the house is his fortress. A Korean needs a hostess and assistant, not a fidgety one. His task is to support his family. Not all Korean husbands help their wives around the house; many won’t even get praise for their daily work.
But this is because a Korean considers this to be the norm. Even if you go to work, your husband’s shirts should still be ironed, and the house should be sparkling clean. In marriage, Korean men are not used to talking much about love; they simply prove it with their actions.
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This collection of videos contains a lot of interesting things about how a Russian girl managed to successfully marry a Korean. Here are her revelations and stories about family life.
Marrying a Korean → not a bad option!
Dear ladies, leave your additions and tips in the comments.